Bay Marin Community Church

Forgiveness Part 2 - Absorbing and Transforming Pain

Discussion Questions:

What resonated most with you about this passage and teaching?

Talk about the three things forgiveness does not mean:

  • Accepting unacceptable behavior
  • Giving a free pass
  • Reconciliation in all cases

Who is held in bondage when you harbor resentment? Talk about that.

When you are hurt, your wound can become your story. How do you keep the wound from becoming your identity? How do you transform to the new identity - the forgiving you?

Ezekiel 36:26 says, "I will give you a new heart and a new spirit within you; and I will remove the heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh." If you have a heart of stone towards someone, what steps can you take to release that person so that God can give you a heart of flesh towards them?

God intends for to transform our hurt by refusing to make them pay, absorbing the debt and dying the death that leads to resurrection. When we don't transform the hurt, when we hold on to it, we often transfer the hurt to someone else because we are walking around in pain. Talk about a time you transferred your hurt until you were finally able to transform it. 

What does it mean to you knowing that the cross is the end of pain?

What might forgiveness free? (how others see us, for example)

In what ways do you hope to integrate elements of this text into your life this week?

Read More