Hillside Church

Ready for Marriage

What does it take to ready yourself for marriage and what should you look for in a spouse? How can you tell if you are ready to be a husband or a wife?

Demonstrable Character

1 Timothy 3:2-3; 11 ∙ Titus 1:6-9 ∙ 1 Timothy 3:4-5

Reputational Track Record

1 Timothy 3:2, 7 ∙ 1 Timothy 3:4-5 ∙ 1 Timothy 4:12 ∙Titus 1:6-7 ∙ Titus 2:6

Spiritual Maturity

1 Timothy 3: 6, 9-10 ∙ Titus 1:9-10 ∙ Titus 2:6 ∙ 1 Timothy 4:12 ∙ Philippians 3:13-15


  1. True or false: when it comes to matters of love and preparing for marriage it’s better to use your heart rather than your head. Relate your answer to the sermon.
  2. Read 1 Timothy 3:3-15. Why would the character qualities essential for biblical Christian leadership serve us well as character qualities to look for in a potential spouse?
  3. We grant that no one is perfect. But why wouldn’t you seek a mate who is striving to develop these character traits, understanding that no one is perfect?
  4. Read 2 Corinthians 6:14-18. Based upon what God is saying in this epistle, is it ever justifiable for a believer to date or marry an unbeliever? In other words, how can you or anyone else justify dating or marrying an unbeliever if it is so clearly forbidden by God?
  5. How can a man or woman, boy or girl, (your son or daughter) discern whether or not their intended ‘date’ is a believer or not? What are 5 steps they could take? Why should they care?
  6. Why might marrying a Christian so important for Christians in the areas of (in no particular order): Parenting; Budgeting; Worshiping; Spending eternity together with your spouse (or children)? Why do you think so many professing Christians won’t/can’t/don’t think this way when choosing a spouse?
  7. Discuss as a group how each (or some of you) will implement something taught in the sermon. Describe a concrete action you will take by saying, “I will… (the action).” This will help you implement what you learned.

 Resources: What He Must Be, by Voddie Bauchum


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